The Coach Approach

Success Tip: Eight Steps to Manifesting

Last week, after receiving an invitation from Thach Nguyen to his Mental Journey to Millions Seminar Live in Irvine, California coming up this weekend, I enjoyed reviewing some of the YouTube video clips he and Matthew Ferry have posted on their site.  I enjoyed their "Eights Steps to Manifesting" as so much of it is about relationship, relationship, relationship.  Like I always say - ALL business is relationship business!

Here are the eight steps. 

Success Tip: The Contribution Game

I heard about The Contribution Game from Thach Nguyen and Matthew Ferry over at Mental Journey to Millions.  The seminar is this weekend in Irvine, California.  The video clips are here.

The premise is this, success is directly proportional to the quality of your relationships.  I can certainly align with that.  Relationships that create success can be organized into advocates, supporters, believers, and followers and to create these relationships, you must connect deeply with others.  In The Contribution Game, they ask you to be clear about your own intentions but hold them with a soft focus or in the back of your mind while you focus on helping others. 

They suggest the following:

1)  Find out who people are

2)  Find out what they are committed to

3)  Leave your own agenda behind

4)  See how you can make a difference

The idea is simple.  What I love about it is, we are talking about authentic connection here rather than manipulating others toward your own agendas.  Contribute to others.  Contribute positive energy to the system, to your relationships, to your organizations, and to your environment.  What naturally follows is that you will reap what you sow.  As you reach out in service to others, you expand your foundation of relationships with advocates, supporters, believers, and followers, the foundation of your success.

All the best,

Lora

Lora Banks, CPCC

lora@TheCoachApproach.net

The Coach Approach, LLC

Success Tip: Play The Perfect Game

What a nice surprise this week when I arrived home from a spinning class and found an email from Thach Nguyen inviting me to attend his "Mental Journey to Millions" seminar in Irvine, California next weekend, September 28-30.  I had the pleasure of hearing Thach speak at Tom Ferry's Success Summit last year and I wrote here about the inspiration, tips, and  tools I received from Thach's presentation.  At this point, I won't be able to attend as I am scheduled to teach a class at San Jose State University but, I told Thach, if something changes with my schedule, I will be on a plane Thursday night to MJM Live.

Check out the video clips. 

Little Things Create Change

My husband and I are blessed with the opportunity to shepherd four precious children through the early years of their lives.  They are our teachers.  Not a day goes by that we don't learn something from our kids.  This little jewel was presented to us last week at the dinner table by our nine-year old daughter.  Read, enjoy, be inspired. 

                           Little Things

                                     By Ashley Ley

One day I went to school and met up with my best friend. My friend smiled at me. I smiled back at her. I smiled at my teacher. She smiled too. Soon the whole class was smiling. My friend whispered to me “Want to come over tomorrow?” I whispered back “ok!”

That evening we went home with our great attitude and smile. As we both talked at dinner we spread that smile and the great attitude. And when anyone in my family sees or talks to the next person or people, it will spread. And then soon the whole world could be smiling back.

We can change the world with simple things like smiling. You don’t have to be famous to change the world. You don’t have to be old or young to change the world.  Any thing you do will make a difference.

Other ideas on how you can change the world. You can pick up trash, you can be helpful to your family, and you can start a rice bowl, and volunteer at a soup kitchen. And there are a whole bunch more simple ways to change the world. Come on every one we can change the world!

This story was inspired by my sister. She once told me we can change the world with simple things.

Thank you Ashley Ley for these beautiful words of wisdom.

   

In gratitude,

   

    

Lora

Lora Banks, CPCC

lora@TheCoachApproach.net

The Coach Approach, LLC

Coaching Tool: The Medicine Walk

Coaching styles can generally be separated into prescriptive, which looks more like consulting or advising people what to do and organic, which is my preferred style and begins with the assumption that the person being coached has the answers and the insights to move themselves forward.  While most folks would like the prescriptive silver bullet, fix all your problems, open all of the doors to opportunity, remove roadblocks, and the 7 easy steps to success, fulfillment, and prosperity, the reality is that the path and process are different for everybody. 

So how do we get the answers inside the client, out into the coaching conversation? 

Stretch Your Dreaming Muscle

I believe in miracles.  Can't help it.  Always have.  Always will.  As much as I am a left-brained, logical, rational thinking type, miracles by definition are unexplainable and yet, I accept them.  What I do know, is that if you are not open to receiving them, it is pretty hard for one to land in your lap.  That is why I encourage my clients to develop their dreaming muscles.

Whatever the mind of man can conceive, it can achieve.

                                                  W. Clement Stone

Hard to imagine that there is a muscle that does your dreaming for you, there's not.  It's really a practice of stretching your imagination in way that is not limited by what is now, what has been in the past, or what you suppose to be likely about your future.  There is plenty of time for a reality check down the line. This is a conversation that frequently comes up in coaching around big changes in work, relationships, and life.  In my practice, clients often want to start addressing an opportunity or solving a problem by first determining what is realistic.  NO, I tell them, not that!

Forget Right and Wrong

Laura Whitworth, one of the founders of the industry of coaching, founder of The Bigger Game, founder of The Coaches Training Institute in San Rafael, creator of the CTI Global Leadership training program and author of Co-Active Coaching: New Skills for Coaching People Toward Success in Work and, Life, left this planet on February 28, 2007 after a long battle with lung cancer.  She was a coach, a friend, a mentor and an inspiration to me in the few years that I knew her.  Laura, like the master coach that she was, asked the best questions.  And although it was several years ago, I still remember one of the greatest gifts of wisdom she gave to me in a coaching session sitting on the beach in Santa Cruz, California.

Laura was coaching me on an entrenched conflict in my personal life, a relationship that had gone bad and become polarized into good and bad, right and wrong.